Skip navigation! Story from Sex Tips. Finger banging is an underrated art. When done right, it's incredibly hot. But whether you're new to sex or an unofficial vagina expert, fingering can be incredibly intimidating — everyone has different preferences, and hey, anatomy is complicated. They say sex is like pizza: When it's bad, it's still good. We beg to differ, especially when it comes to sex with your hands. For the most part, dry, fast, and furious fingering does not feel pleasant.
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Fingering is typically the use of fingers or hands to sexually stimulate the vulva including the clitoris or vagina. Fingering may also include the use of fingers to sexually stimulate the anus. Fingering may be performed on oneself masturbation or by or with a sexual partner.
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I'm 14 and still a virgin, but my boyfriend fingers me and gives me oral sex. For a couple of weeks, my vagina has been itchy and red, and it hurts when I touch it. I don't feel comfortable talking to my mom about this. What should I do? Friction and pressure from fingering or oral sex can cause irritation in the sensitive genital area. But itching and redness that lasts for a couple of weeks also could be a sign of an infection that could get worse if it isn't treated. So you should get checked out by a doctor or nurse practitioner.
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